F*CK, WHY ARE WOMEN STILL CARRYING IT ALL? WITH ASH BG
Guest: Ash BG
Season 2, conversation 8 · Published 11 September 2026
The mental load, misogyny, raising boys and why men need to be part of the change.
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Writer and founder Ash BG, the woman behind You Wanted This and Tether, an app designed to make the invisible labour inside relationships visible, joins Dom to talk about the mental load, being the default parent and why so many women are quietly drowning while telling themselves their partner does a lot. Ash believes men need to do better. Dom challenges her that perhaps all of us need to do better. Together they get into the manosphere, consent, parenting, accountability and what our boys are learning simply by watching us.
About Ash BG: Writer, founder of You Wanted This and Tether.
The mental load: what this conversation covers
- The mental load is more than doing the jobs. It includes the noticing, planning, remembering and emotional work behind them.
- Making that invisible work visible can be a useful place to start a fairer conversation at home.
- Ash believes men need to do better. Dom challenges her that perhaps all of us need to do better.
- The conversation also covers the default parent, the manosphere, consent, parenting, accountability and what boys learn by watching us.
Summarised from the episode description and the free guide for this conversation.
Free conversation guide
It was never just the milk. The milk, the school bags, the appointment nobody else remembered. Ash and I get into all the thinking that happens before the job is even done. If you’re tired of being the person who notices everything, this is a conversation worth having.
- Five things from our chat to think about.
- A few things to try, when you’re ready.
- A question to take into your own life.
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Lessons paraphrase the Buzzsprout transcript. The exercises and “before 50” takeaway are editorial suggestions inspired by the conversation, not quotations or guaranteed outcomes.
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Topics: RELATIONSHIPS, IDENTITY
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