F*CK, REFRAMING YOUR LIFE! WITH VASHTI WHITFIELD
Guest: Vashti Whitfield
Season 2, conversation 4 · Published 5 June 2026
The conversation that felt less like an interview and more like a mirror.
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Coach, facilitator, speaker and all-round bullshit detector Vashti Whitfield joins Dom to talk about the beliefs, patterns and stories quietly shaping our lives. This one gets into radical reframing, why your behaviour is your belief, the power of should vs could, bucket lists, fuck-it lists, grief, presence, and what it actually means to live on purpose. If you've ever thought things look pretty good on paper but something still feels off, this episode is for you.
About Vashti Whitfield: Executive coach, facilitator, speaker and creator of Radical Reframe. Known for the documentary Be Here Now.
Conversation guide
Keeping busy. But how are we actually feeling? Vashti and I talk about the patterns we can fall into, the feelings underneath them and finding a little room to choose what comes next. Sometimes it starts with noticing, rather than trying to change the whole of life at once.
- Swap one “should” for “could” and name your choice.
- List feelings you want, not just adventures.
- Rehearse a kind no and plan support afterwards.
Notice the feeling underneath the busyness.
How am I actually feeling under all the keeping busy?
Try this week: Pause once a day this week and name one feeling, without trying to fix it.
These ideas come from our conversation. The activities are a few suggestions to try, when you’re ready. Timestamps refer to the longer YouTube edit. This is for reflection, not trauma treatment.
Transcript excerpt.
YouTube · 9:39-10:23
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Conversation excerpt · 9:39-10:23
[9:39] >> and I was really torn. And it's very [9:42] unusual for me to use the word struggle [9:44] and I've already mentioned it but I was [9:45] struggling and probably in there I was [9:48] avoiding grief. [9:49] >> Right. So you were keeping busy. [9:51] >> I was keeping I was keeping busy but [9:52] also it felt so purpose driven. [9:55] >> Now you asked me where did the radical [9:56] reframe come come from. It was when one [9:59] day I was at 4:30 in the morning because [10:01] of the time zone talking to my coach and [10:04] I was crying and I was saying, "I don't [10:06] know what to do because there's so much [10:07] to do for the film, for the book, for [10:10] the kids." And he said, "Well, what if [10:13] right now you're just supposed to be a [10:14] mom?" And I was so torn by that that I [10:19] said, "You don't understand. I'm the [10:21] provider now. I have to provide. So, how [10:23] am I going to provide?" And as much as
Topics: REINVENTION, IDENTITY
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